Every day, every moment in our lives we make choices. We make choices on what we think, what we say and what we do. We make big choices and small choices, but each regardless of its “size” or “importance” has its consequences on ourselves,the path that we travel and those around us. The one thing I can say that we don’t really choose is our emotions, but what we do in response to those emotions is again a choice that we make.I’ve always believed that whatever choice we make there are certain points or lessons in our lives that we will come to. We may take the “easy” way or the path less traveled. We may walk the path gracefully, finding it clear or we may stumble and fall, navigating the rough and stony path. In the end though, we will have to confront the lessons. Whether we have the awareness to learn them with grace or whether we decide to learn it kicking and screaming, again is in our hands.
But are there “right and wrong” choices? Can we categorize them as bad or good? Is it true that there is no right or wrong choice? Is it true what some say that the choices that we make are the right ones and that there are no wrong choices? What about those that decide to cheat others or commit acts of atrocities on others? How can we look at the terrible things that some people have done and claim that their decisions to do so should be accepted – because you see “there is no “wrong” choice?
Here’s the thing. The simple fact is that there are choices that we make and those choices will affect us and those around us in different ways. How we then choose to respond to the effect produced by said choice is then again, another choice. It’s like a chain reaction.
A choice made reflects the state of mind that you are in. Are you reacting to an emotion. Are you even aware of the choice that you have made. You see, I feel that whatever choices that I have made and will make in my life is a reflection of me. What’s going on within me – the doubts, the fears, the expectations, the perceptions, the believes ; and it reflects how aware I am of it.
Do you find that at times you are completely stumped at the choice you have to make? I am. There are times when I’m not sure. I don’t know if the choice that I make will hurt another or not. If I am doing the “right thing” or not. If I am doing it for selfish reasons or not. Well…
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What I learned about making choices in our lives is that all choices are based on our motivation. The intent of our choice is more important than the choice itself. But, how do we know if our intent is helpful or hurtful to us or others?
This is where the concept of a spiritual ideal steps in. A spiritual ideal is a benchmark of all that you think, say or do. It’s the one word that you base your attitudes and actions on. It can be the ultimate of all ideals, such as love – the love of all humanity, or it can be a person like Buddha or Jesus, or it can be a definite form of consciousness like Christ consciousness or Buddha consciousness. Whatever you choose, it needs to resonate with you. It needs to be something that you feel is important to you – at the level of the soul or deep within you.
Then comes the mental ideal. The mental ideal is the attitude that comes from your spiritual ideal. Let’s say we take love as our spiritual ideal, then what sort of attitude would you have towards yourself , your life and those around you which reflects love. For example, if I hold love as my spiritual ideal then I would have the attitude of forgiveness towards myself and others, patience can be another attitude as could empathy. .
The manifestation of our spiritual and mental ideal would then be our physical ideals. Our actions, our words and our choices. For example, if we take the spiritual ideal of love and bring into ourselves the mental ideal of having an attitude of patience, then we would then consciously choose to listen to a friend’s problems with an open heart and without judgement. If we hold love as our spiritual ideal and choose the attitude of self-worth, then though we want to dress comfortably, we would choose clothes that are comfortable yet not frumpy. If we choose to walk away from a relationship, then we would do so out of love and in a responsible manner, towards ourselves and our partner
They can be life changing choices or the small daily choices that we make for ourselves. If we keep working on reminding ourselves of our spiritual ideal and consciously being aware of our attitudes and the manifestation of it, then we can be assured that the choices that we make will help us grow into our greatest potential.
What are your thoughts on making choices? Do you feel that there are good and bad choices?